This blog post is soooo late, but you know what I had to sit and let my mind settle for a bit before, tapping away at my keyboard. I love me a black man, plain and simple, especially if he is comfortable with his sexuality.
Several months ago I was asked by a blog reader to write about submissive black men, they felt that this was a taboo topic. As usual when asked to blog about a particular subject I thought about my own experiences.
Here’s what I came up with:
My first encounter with a submissive black man, was when a guy requested that I sit on his face during sex, I was taken aback as this man seemed rather dominant in many ways. The more I rocked back and forth, the further his tongue went in my pussy. Then out of nowhere, I became this whole other woman, telling him what to do, how to satisfy me and he did everything I said and I mean everything.
And just when I thought I had him where I wanted him, he completely switched and had me bent over a table and fucked me until my thighs shook and I began to chant his name.
It was this same man who was partial to having his arse played with on a regular basis, I lost count of the times that I fisted him. There was something sexy about him, he was willing to go out of his way to please me, my pleasure was his. He was not happy unless I was happy, until I had come, several times.
But where are all the black submissive men hiding? I have only had encounters with a few. Then something totally rocked me, or should I say shocked me. Whilst chatting online with black swingers, I was asked by a guy who claimed to be a black bull (dominant) if I could train him as my sub, he wanted to be strap on fucked.
Before I could answer, there were more requests from black dominant men, all making the same requests. I was stunned, so I asked them why they felt the need to repress their submissiveness. Some of them felt that black men were expected to be dominant and that they could not present another side of their sexuality in the swinger lifestyle.
While I found all of this intriguing, I was a bit miffed, but then I remembered how I felt when I first embraced both my dominant and submissive sides. There are way to many labels, when it comes to sex, and rules for that matter. Surely if a black man gets off on being submissive, that’s his business and nobody else’s?
Still perplexed, I went in search of videos, books, articles, websites, anything that would give me more information about black men and submission. What I found was an underground scene of black cuckolds, where black men were watching their wives and girlfriends being fucked by other men. I saw personal ads from men seeking strap on play and domination. I also saw a very rare clip of a black woman pegging a black man, as most of the femdom vids feature black women and white men.
But, arse play, strap ons and fetish aside, is pussy eating not a submissive act, or am I wrong here? There is so much controversy about whether men should eat pussy, or bow. When a man is between my legs, I feel that is submission. If I’m queening and fucking his face, again he is being submissive. If I ride his dick while he is on his back, submissive. Lastly if I make him my bitch, whilst giving him a good screw with a strap on, yet again he’s submissive.
And if he can make me purr, pound me with some thug swagger, foot pon shoulder, pon di edge, rampin shop, I’m fucking you tonight ish…then he’s a switch.
And if he
use a butt plug
well my readers that is heteroflexibility.
Need I say more?
Black men, forget the labels, do what makes you and your partner/s feel good.
Over to you, have you acknowledged your submissiveness, how did it feel to surrender.
****Last blog post of the year!! So my wonderful blog readers, have a kinky, fetishtastic Christmas and New Year, I’ll be back in 2013, with more erotica, new stories and fingers crossed a publishing date for my very overdue second book Another Night of Pashun****