On Facebook I announced my return to the blogging world and made it quite clear that my return would be hardcore, I want to talk about all aspects of sexuality.
Putting the blog back up has been bittersweet as I waded through old blog posts, read accounts of experiences and thought “Fuck”, a lot has happened this year, so much so that I had to stop and think about whether I could continue personal blogging. Writing about your life is therapeutic to a certain extent but after a while it can be a bit, well, me, me and did I forget to mention me!!
Fetish is still taboo, kink is often seen as perverse – in fact oral sex to some is similar to commiting a crime. Where does it say thou shall not suck dick or eat pussy, where? Show me because I would really like to know.
In the few months that I have been away from the blog, I met people who had fetishes or sexual preferences that they were hiding from their friends and partners. They knew that to tell them, to say openly “I like being fucked up the arse” would result in the friendship / relationship ending.
My first blog Nasty Black Chick was raw, raw in the sense that I felt like I had nothing to lose, so I blogged daily more or less about sexuality, I set up Black Fetish Queen afterwards and put both blogs into Black, Kinky and Proud. Yet, after having a conversation last night it was brought to my attention that this blog is a lot milder then Nasty Black Chick was, I agree.
Back then I was eager to talk about sexuality, so hungry for it…now I feel exposed after having all of my personal stuff out there for people to read but then was it really my stuff?
My blog persona is so far removed from who I really am…so I will put some of the more popular posts back up as I have always maintained that the blog was a mix of fact and fiction, and not necessarily my fact.
What can I say now about sex, that I have not said before, maybe nothing.
Why am I getting messages from black men wanting to be fucked up the arse with a strap on, they claim that I understand them they feel that I won’t judge.
It is a fucking shame that these men are not able to get what they want, it is a shame because some tosser has probably accused them of being a pervert for wanting something that they find pleasureable. I have said it so many times, prostate orgasms!! Wear a rubber glove, cover it with lube and finger his arse, wank his cock at the same time, the result is one very happy man.
A man that is so comfortable with his sexuality is a turn on, I tried explaining this weeks ago and for the most part the response was shock and a total lack of understanding. I feel that the real reason for men not being more open about the whole strap on thing is the issue of being judged.
For many it is more acceptable for a woman to strap another woman, why? Does the gender of the person getting strapped really matter?
Men fuck women and other men, depending on their sexual preferences, so why is it taboo for a woman to fuck a man? Strapping a man is a serious workout for the thighs, sorry if I am going over things of blogs past but it is what it is. The point I’m trying to make here is that there are so many people who are having to repress their sexuality.
If your thing is anal and your partner is not up for it, you can sit and suffer in silence or think “Fuck this”, bugger off and get it somewhere else.
So what exactly have I got planned this time around for the blog, well it is supposed to be a blogzine, so hopefully I will get to work with other bloggers, writers and poets.
The main thing is I want to be open, open to sexuality, the books are still on my agenda and I will publish them as soon as I can.
A personal message for my readers, thank you so much for reading my blog especially to those who have become friends.
Sex is a beautiful gift, thank your lover, your partner, your link, your buddy when you are getting those toe curling orgasms!!
Self-love is not a sin, get the vibrator out, use that wand, wank that dick, rub that clit.
Enjoy your Sunday
x
