On this somewhat cloudy morning, I sit at the laptop thinking what shall today’s alternative message be, and all I came up with was:
Embrace Your Inner Kink.
When I first began blogging, I knew nothing about kink, it was the internet, reading erotica and femdom porn that gave me an education in regards to kink. But what exactly is kinky, I think it is whatever you want it to be, I have a thing about red leather, I just absolutely love it not sure why, it justs screams “Mistress” to me and I suppose it looks great against my skin, yes I can be vain, I know:)
If you have been reading my blog for some time you know what my attitude towards sex is, I tend to have a try it and see if you like it approach. Vanilla sex is great and it can be very satisfying but there are times, when you have to fuck on the park bench and the fact that you might get caught adds to the excitement.
To me sex has to be varied, fun and I have sort of reached that age where if I’m not getting what I want, I’m not afraid to say to said lover, “Erm, watch this, lick this, suck this”, not unless I have a lover who knows exactly what I want, (you have to love partners like that).
Before you run a mile because your playmate suggests you tie them to the chair, think about it. Likewise, acknowledge your own kink, Fetlife is one of my favourite places on the net. I recall a former lover enquiring as to why I loved watching gay men fuck each other bareback, in porn. I paused and looked at him like he was crazy, “Two dicks, two balls, that’s why”.
Sex is sex, and while I have had a few men literally shout “No, way” when they’ve seen the size of my strap on, there are a few who got hard. Am I saying that all men want to have their arses fucked, no I’m not, but a lot of men who claim they are not into it, actually are, the same with pussy eating. But I have covered the Undercover Pussy Eaters on this blog numerous times.
Listen up, if you are repressing who you are sexuallly, then it will come out at some point. One of the best online conversations I ever had was with a married woman who was at home alone, we chatted for hours about everything she wanted to try. Last time I heard from her, she had tried a cuckold situation, her submissive husband loved it.
I’m not saying I’ve tried it all, there are a few things that I would like to be crossed off my bucket list, although I’m not playing anymore, swinging gave me some of the best sexual experiences I have ever had. Would I try it again, not right now, I think I can officially say I’ve learnt what I wanted to.
Nothing beats that moment when you take a lover by surprise, walk into a room, whip in hand, handcuffs on the bed, order them to assume the postion and ride them into submission.
