Grab a chair, this week’s message is all about being free.
Freedom is a basic human right, how many of us exercise that right? How many of us are controlled or dictated to in terms of our sexuality, lifestyles and relationships. Being sexually free means you give up the notion, the idea that conformity is the only way. Going along with society’s ideals is somewhat easy, and there are times when many do not have any other choice but to follow until their situation changes or that light goes off and the “Fuck it this is my life” comes into play.
I should be rich by now, seriously I should, with the amount of “You are way too freaky for a black woman” statements that I have heard, now if I have had only put money in an account each time they said it, damn, can you say “Shopping spree”!! Female sexuality is misunderstood, I go further and add that black female sexuality is often represented as a cross between the woman who has her legs closed permanently or the woman who has the tightest shorts or mini skirt.
There is nothing wrong with either of them, the problem that I have as a black woman is that I am often expected to chose a particular type and stay with it. Newsflash, I’m kinky, have been for a while and repression of any form sucks!!
Fetish, Kink
While, tweaking, editing and playing with the layout for the blog this week, (do you like the new banner?) I came across several fetish sites and videos, all very interesting, which I will probably comment on at a later date.
What is your fetish? Is it seeing someone wearing thigh high “Fuck Me” boots, or women smoking, does latex, leather and lace do it for you? I have a serious boots fetish, I won’t even begin to tell you how many I own, but boots are sexy in the space of the few minutes that it takes to put them on you can enter another world, the world of kink, fetish and lust.
There’s power in kinky boots, can you imagine being able to say “Fuck Me” without even having to say it, the boots are talking for you. When you have on a pair of slinky, pointy, long boots in the right setting, something is bound to explode, literally. Are you embracing your kink or fetish, if not why not?
Before I came out in kink, I spent copious hours reading about kink, watching kink, but never living kink. On the rare occassions that I get to play I look forward to kinky adventures, and if I’m wearing boots, I’m not just wearing them, I’m working those boots with a skirt, bra, bustier, choker, hair pulled back and looking fierce.
Have you ever fucked whilst wearing boots, I mean really fucked, your lover is wearing you out with his cock or her strap on and you’re backing that arse up. It really is a sight to behold, now I’m about to be controversial here, I feel totally slutty if I have my boots on before, or during a fuck session. It is like I have taken on this whole persona, I love it, add a whip, handcuffs and the odd “Take my fucking cock, take it”. That is some good shit.
TV and Kitchen Sink
I am forever flicking through TV channels, there was nothing worth watching until I caught the last ten minutes of this soft porn movie with this man screwing this woman on the kitchen sink, and what was she wearing, she was wearing a pair of high heel boots. His cock was ramming this woman silly and she was like “Fuck me, fuck me”, with a pile of washing up, pressing up against her back, classic.
Are fetish and kink the same, I’m not sure that I can answer that fully, all I know is that when you share a fetish or kink with someone that totally gets it, it is orgasmic.
Watching a lover get off on you wearing a choker and a thong, or watching your playmate wank is so good, it is about knowing what turns your partner/s, link, buddy, hubby or wifey on. I mean how far would you go, now I swore blind that I would never ever be up for dominant men, but if a man with skin as smooth as butter, and a voice that oozes sexuality says “Suck my dick”, erm what’s with the waiting, suck it. Likewise, women have been known to turn men and other women for that matter into putty with the right words, attitude, clothing and seduction.
Over the next few months, Alternative Sunday Service will cover fetish, kink and porn and most importantly, how to embrace your inner kink. The reason being is that sex is so varied, there is no wrong or right way, it really is about what suits you. The main thing is that you enjoy it, whether it be solo, partnered, poly, group, orgiastic or monogamous.
What we do in our bedrooms, on the back seat, kitchen sink or stairs, is really nobody’s business, now if covering your tits with honey and having your playmate lick it off gets you and them going, go ahead, indulge.
Remember for every potential lover that screws up their face at the mention of anal, oral, strap ons, sex toys or mutal masturbation, there are several that will say “Yes please, now bend over so I can smack that arse”.
Service is over, I have more blog entries to type namely Miz Fat Pum Pum, apparently she has been up to all sorts…
Kinky Blessings
Pashun
