BAM’s wife started it all, up until that point, I had never considered having sex with a woman. For the majority of my life I have been strictly dickly.
So when she entered my life The Other Woman, I did not understand why I felt the way I did about her.
She was already in a relationship with a man, we started out as friends and still are.
First it was the phone calls and the conversations we had when she was having “man problems”, we talked about how he was always too busy and never had enough time for her.
We did a lot together, shopping, eating lunch, dinner and then I realised I was always with her.
I backed off a little and kept my distance, she wanted an explanation and I could not tell her why.
I had gone to bed early and was in a really horny mood and played with my dildo and closed my eyes, instead of fantasising about a guy, she came into my mind.
All I could think about was her, what it would be like to kiss her, taste her lips against mine and to touch her clit. I imagined rubbing her down with oil and caressing her at the same time.
She sent me a text saying that she missed me and could I spend the weekend with her as she was feeling lonely. I did not go, I knew that if I went, I would not be able to stop myself.
I noticed that when we spoke together, she stood really close to me and one day she was almost an inch away from my mouth. I began to touch her neck, lips, hair and shoulders. She leaned even closer and said that she liked me, that she liked black women.
I made an excuse and left, she came after me and touched my hips and asked me what was wrong.
Months past and we played it cool, like nothing ever happened. She asked me to go to dinner with her and instead of sitting opposite me, she sat next to me, we ended up sharing a plate of food.
As we were about to leave she held me by the waist and just looked at me intently, she told me that she was going to give him a second chance.
That night, I knew that I could not go on and I walked away.
I consider myself to be bisexual, although I have never played with a woman, I do find them very attractive.
Whilst having sex with a partner, I found myself thinking of The Other Woman and called out her name. He was so fucking pissed off:
Him: Who the fuck is _____?
Me: What are you talking about?
Him: You said ______
Me: Did I?
Him: Am I not enough for you? You have to have a woman as well?
He was in a foul mood for the rest of the night, he threatened to tell everyone we knew. Before he got the chance I told them myself, I came out.
It was hard, not everyone believed me at first and there are others that still don’t know and quite frankly I don’t give a shit.
I have been told so many times, “You just have not found the right man yet”. Some have been down right rude:
You want dick and pussy, that’s just greedy
This is who I am, I like men and women, I don’t know what the future holds, for now I prefer to keep my options open.
