In the past, I have used personal ads, dating sites and pot luck to find my playmates.
At times I still find that I am slightly hesitant to reveal all of my fetishes, it takes time and trust for me to do that.
During a conversation with a potential playmate, I mentioned fisting, I waited for a response and was questioned about my sanity.
He was immediately turned off and said that he did not want to have sex with me. I found this all a bit puzzling as on his profile, he had said he was into fisting, arse play, anal play and watersports as well as dogging.
When I quizzed him further, he said “black women don’t get dirty like that”. I said in return “But I do, so what gives?” He actually admitted that he thought I was too kinky. I was lost, totally lost.
In response to an ad that I had placed, I was bombarded with requests from men who wanted to fuck me anally but did not want me to use my strap on. I found this annoying as I clearly stated my preferences.
I have had some very pleasurable experiences, but recently it has been difficult to find an ideal partner, simply because there are very few men that I meet who are willing to share my love of fetish and accept my sexuality.
There has been a tendency for the men to control my desires, to the point where it is a complete turn off. I usually flee, never to return again.
As much as I would love to attend a few play parties and fetish clubs, I am not sure if this right for me. Will I find a suitable mate there? I am done with fuck buddies, as I want something that lasts more than a couple of nights.
So hence my new experiment in kinky dating, I will try and see what is out there and blog about the results. This should be interesting, the last time I did this I ended up attracting a lot of men into interracial bdsm, so I wonder what will happen now.
